So I've written about communication and aspergers a few times. I've brushed over how people often take my other half as being rude instead of being very direct. If you ask a questions that can be answered with a simple yes or no, you are almost guaranteed to get a one word response.
Over time I've seen over and over again people getting frustrated with the lack of detail and the simple answers she gives. And time after time, I find myself butting in, offering a fuller explanation and talking for her.
At times, this works. When talking to her mother or close friends, they let me do the talking and explain in more detail different things. Other times, like when talking to my family or someone that doesn't know her so well, it looks different. I am conscious of the faces I get for butting in. She's not simple and I'm not doing it to make her look stupid, I'm doing it because if I don't, the only answers you will get will be one syllable long.
How do I change this?
Am I meant to stand there and watch as she gives one word answers and watch the frustration break across the other persons face? Am I meant to let the conversation die painfully? Do I explain? Do I say, you need to avoid simple questions? Do I tell her to give more detail? Or would that send us off on a completely different tangent, will she then share too much and we be back to square one of awkwardness.
What do you suggest I do? Because I'm not sure I can sit through anymore of those odd moments...
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